Emotional abuse is serious and can have harmful effects.
Sarea knew of Timothy’s medical condition was fragile and that he was depending on his oldest son to get medical assistance for him. Before, the children’s abandonment, an older brother and nephew who lived in the same building, had established a routine of checking in on him. After the children arrived, they relied on the oldest to contact them for help when Timothy had an episode. This had been working for him until the kidnapping.
Sarea had been with Timothy for over 15 years and claimed that she herself had physical conditions for which the cause was not ever determined after numerous hospital visits. Family determined that she believed she had a condition, though unknown. So, she claimed no one in the family was sensitive to or cared about her, especially Timothy. This led to constant erratic tantrums of emotional abuses spewed upon Timothy, the children and whoever else was around at the time. On the contrary, Timothy actually had a known critical physical condition that she had lived with, experienced many times and knew first-hand of his diabetic situations that made it imperative that someone needed to be with him, yet she forced him out of their home because he wanted a divorce, so she wanted him to be hurt because she was hurt. Sarea knew what would upset Timothy, and often used her unknown condition as the cause. She knew what could save him and what could put him in a COMA and or KILL him.
Initially, Timothy and Sarea agreed to separate, but she later recanted, escalated the abuses, staged suicide attempts, then ousted Timothy from their home, and denied access to their children during the holiday season. Subsequently, she reversed her decision and abandoned the children with him for almost a year. Sarea never held a job long enough to significantly contribute to the family, leaving Timothy to depend on her for childcare while he worked full-time. His job demanded his complete focus, which put extra strain on him when he had to care for the children alone, a role he was not used to and had to seek outside the home for help.
Much more could be said about the events and conduct of others complicit with Sarea that contributed to Timothy’s emotional abuse however, the ultimate torment and infliction of emotional distress was the abandonment and then the kidnapping of his children by the mother that had abused them and him, and who he feared would abuse them again by her refusal to return them, allowed by the lack of assistance from the police.
Because of the vulnerability of having type-1 diabetes, it can be easily seen how Timothy was tortured and killed by psychological abuses. Below is an explanation of of the relevant points of “Torturous Behavior” by AI.
Psychological abuse, also known as mental or emotional abuse, involves using verbal and non-verbal communication to try to control someone or harm them emotionally. It doesn’t leave visible bruises or broken bones; psychological abuse can cause severe emotional issues and mental health conditions.
In a marriage relationship, several behaviors can be torturous, causing emotional pain and distress. Let’s explore some of these:
- Emotional Abuse: Abusive relationships don’t always begin with physical violence. Emotional abuse can start subtly, with actions like ignoring you, belittling your feelings, or manipulating your emotions. Controlling behavior, blaming, passive-aggressiveness, and shaming are also forms of emotional abuse. Even isolating you from friends and family falls into this category. Remember, any verbal or behavioral action that makes you feel shame, guilt, or fear qualifies as emotional abuse¹.
- Physical Abuse: This form of abuse involves hitting, shoving, or throwing things. It’s the most likely to lead to depression, anxiety, and even PTSD. Substance abuse may also be connected to both the victim and the abuser¹.
- Neglect: Withholding care, attention, or emotional support can be torturous. Neglect can manifest as ignoring your needs, failing to provide emotional support, or disregarding your well-being.
- Verbal Abuse: Attacking and humiliating language—such as name-calling, criticizing, or gaslighting—can cause immense emotional pain. Verbal abuse chips away at self-esteem and damages the relationship. 2
Source: Conversation with Bing, 4/14/2024
(1) 8 Different Types of Abuse in a Relationship – Marriage.com. https://www.marriage.com/advice/domestic-violence-and-abuse/types-of-abuse-in-a-relationship/.
(2) Forms or modes of abuse in relationships. https://bing.com/search?q=types+of+abuse+in+a+relationship.